Motivation Monday

Motivation Monday: Throw Kindness Around Like Confetti

10 Easy Ways To Be A Kinder Person

  1. Give away books you have read. Share what you’ve read with someone else who might be interested in reading it for free!

  2. Give more hugs. Apparently humans need 12 hugs a day for growth. Start hugging more!

  3. Send Thank you notes. Not just for special occasions, but for everything!

  4. Pay it forward. The next time you’re in line at a drive-thru or tollbooth, pay for the person behind you, just because!

  5. Be nice to someone you dislike. You gotta kill ’em with kindness, right?

  6. Do what you say you’re going to do. Always keep your word.

  7. Stop complaining. Your positivity will encourage others to do the same.

  8. Buy someone flowers for no reason at all.

  9. Let someone in the checkout line go ahead of you. This is always extra nice when you can tell someone is in a hurry or has kids with them!

  10. Write notes to your loved ones and put them in their jacket pocket, car, suitcase, lunchbox etc.

What are some ways you show kindness? We’d love to hear your tips and ideas!

Motivation Monday: Love Your Business and It Will Love You Back

It's Time to Fall in Love With Your Business Again

By Chelsea Berler

Sometimes, in business, we lose ourselves to the hum of working day after day. It can be hard to get excited when, what should be the joy of operating your business gets turned into just another day at the office. Whether your numbers are up or down, your business is going through growing pains or feeling the sting of an economy that still hasn’t bounced back, it’s important to hold on to the things that influenced your career choice. Why do you do what you do? 

Spark the romance again.

A relationship with your work can be described as rocky at best. There are so many peaks and valleys that we encounter that it can be emotionally draining. However, to be not only successful, but also be fulfilled in the work we do, it is important that we keep the romance going. Remember how it felt the first time you made that paycheck for doing something you’re passionate about? Or what about the butterflies you felt when approaching your first clients?

Seeing how far you’ve come can be a remarkable feeling. Some things have become easier, more fluid while others still seem to get you tripped up. Maybe you’re still not the best at handling criticism or perhaps paying company bills still makes you sweat at the end of the month. It sounds cheesy, but focusing on the positives in your life can be big step towards getting yourself out of a rut.

An attitude of gratitude.

How grateful are you for your job? Whether you own your own business or work for someone else, we can forget to be thankful for what and who we have around us. Even when I don’t feel like I am in the most “giving” mood, I try to say thank you to the people around me who work to make my life easier. I have come to find that the more I say “thank you,” the more I mean it. Those people who receive a thank you are likely to pay it forward to their co-workers and the other people in their lives who may need a pat on the back.

I would challenge you to wake up in the morning with a mindset that says, “Today, I will be grateful.” Believe it or not, this is a choice that you can make. Only you can dictate how you spend your day. And why would you want to waste it feeling unsatisfied and frustrated? Talk about a poor use of energy.

Anchor yourself.

Sure, life (whether in or out of business) can get a bit crazy both in a good or bad way. But, making sure that your heart it anchored to the right things is the only way you can survive the storms that life may throw at you. What matters to you most? Who matters to you? Keep these things and especially these people close to you. Because, no matter how far off course you feel like you’ve gotten over the years, you will always have them to pull you back in and set you back to right.

5 Ways to Shine Your Light in the Workplace

Let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:16 CSB

Working in a place where Christians are the minority can often be challenging. You might be tempted to hunker down, do your work and then rush home each day. But instead of quietly surviving, God has called us to be a light in the darkness. That means we are to shine brightly and not cower in our cubicle. To speak truth in love, not simply conform to the attitudes and beliefs of our co-workers so as not to make waves. We are to be the bright spot in a dark world, proclaiming the love and salvation our Savior has to offer.

Easier said than done, right? Well, here are some practical ways you can be a light at your job:

1. Words Matter

It’s easy to fall into the speech habits of those around you. Ephesians 4:29 tells us to speak only words that will be uplifting to others. Hang a decoration with encouraging words near your desk to remind yourself to trust God in all circumstances. Having His truth as a constant reminder can help you think before you speak.

2. Attitude Adjustment

Stress, dreaded tasks, uncooperative co-workers, lack of recognition...there are numerous things in your workplace that can bring you down. But, how do you react? Do you grumble and complain or do you choose to trust God and be positive? Remember that you can do all things through Christ who gives you strength (Philippians 4:13). Rest in the assurance that God will get you through every situation, and show others what it means to have the joy of the Lord, no matter the circumstances. Place a reminder at your desk to praise God and focus on His goodness. Believe me, people will notice.

3. Showcase the Truth

Another way to witness is to simply let God’s Word speak for itself. Drink your morning coffee in this "Faith Over Fear" mug and take it with you to your team meetings. You can also place Scripture shareables prominently on your desk. These are non-confrontational ways to present the Word to your co-workers and plant a seed in their hearts. After all, you never know how it will touch or convict them.

4. Go One-on-One

It’s hard to find obvious opportunities to talk about your relationship with Jesus when you’re on the clock. An easy way to get some one-on-one time, however, is to invite a co-worker to lunch. Genuinely get to know them as you talk about more casual things like kids, hobbies and activities. Eventually, the Holy Spirit may open a door for you to speak about your relationship with a loving God. Pray Ephesians 6:19-20 before you go and ask the Lord to open doors for His Kingdom to be released in your interaction.

5. Show a Servant's Heart

You’ve heard the saying “actions speak louder than words.” Often what we do can be an even louder witness than what we say. Look for opportunities to serve your fellow co-workers. Give a sweet baby gift to someone out on maternity leave or send a sincere sympathy card to a co-worker who recently lost a loved one. Other ways to serve might include offering a ride to someone whose car is in the shop. If you have Christian music playing in your car, the lyrics of a song might minister to them. Through you, these small actions can speak volumes about God’s immeasurable love for your co-workers.

Motivation Monday: Know Your Worth

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From Psychology Today

How Do You Measure Your Self-Worth?

When you get measured at the doctor's office, does the medical professional use a random stick to reveal your height? Hopefully not. If they did, you might be 3½ sticks tall in one doctor's office and 12 sticks tall in another. That sounds ridiculous, right? But when it comes to measuring self-worth, many people use something just as unreliable as a random stick.

You may not even consciously think about what type of stick you use to measure your self-worth. But it's likely that, deep down, you know. After all, when you feel like you're measuring up, you feel good about yourself. But when you feel as though you've fallen short, your self-esteem likely plummets. So while you may be aware of those fluctuations in how you feel, you might never stop to think about what type of measuring stick influences you so much.

While there are many ways you might measure your worthiness in life, it's important to consider whether some of them are unhealthy. Here are five common — yet unhealthy — ways people measure their self-worth:

1. Your Appearance

Some people measure their self-worth by the numbers on a scale. Others determine their value by how much attention they can attract with their appearance. The media sends a message that "you're only as good as you look," and many marketing strategies target people's insecurities over everything from weight gain to aging.

That's not to say good looks don't serve as an advantage in life; they certainly can. But a beautiful body or a handsome face won't last forever, and hair loss, wrinkles, and a middle-age spread can feel catastrophic for someone whose self-worth depends on their physical appearance.

2. Your Net Worth

You likely know at least one person whose self-worth is measured by their income or material possessions. But people who measure their self-worth by their net worth may never feel "valuable enough." And it's not just wealthy people who define themselves by the size of their bank accounts — many people live beyond their means in an attempt to feel "good enough." But going deep into debt to create a façade of wealth backfires in the end because while goods and services have monetary value, they don't reflect your value as a human being.

3. Who You Know

There are several ways people depend on others to give them value. While one person may only feel good about herself when she's in a relationship, someone else may feel as though name-dropping well-known people will gain the admiration from others he needs to feel good.

Some people only feel worthy when they can surround themselves with important people. A lengthy list of personal contacts and a busy social calendar help them feel valuable and important. But depending on other people to make you feel good is like chasing a moving target. You can't control what other people think of you, and you certainly can't please everyone all the time. You'll never be able to receive enough praise and positive reinforcement to genuinely feel good about yourself.

4. What You Do

A career helps many people feel worthwhile. In fact, many people introduce themselves by saying what they do: "I'm a computer programmer," or "I'm a lawyer." Their job isn't what they do — it's who they are. Their career reinforces to them that they're "somebody." But basing your self-worth on your job title is a big risk. An economic downturn, unexpected shift in the job market, or a major health problem can put an end to your career and lead to a major identity crisis. Even a planned retirement may destroy your self-worth if your identity is tied to your job title. If you've always measured your self-worth by what you do, you won't feel good about yourself when your career ends.

5. What You Achieve

Sometimes people want to be known solely for their achievement. That person who brags about her latest business success may only feel good when she talks about her accomplishments. Or an individual who just can't stop beating himself for a mistake he made might struggle to move forward, because he didn't achieve what he needed to feel good.

While it's normal to feel proud of your accomplishments, basing your entire self-worth on your achievement is like building a house on an unsteady foundation. You'll need to experience constant success to feel good about yourself — and that means you'll likely avoid doing things where you could fail.

How to Feel Good About Who You Are

The way you choose to measure your worth affects the kind of life you'll live. Use a measuring stick based on factors you can control — not the external events in your life.

When you know who you are — and you're pleased with the person you've become — you'll experience a sense of peace through life's inevitable ups and downs. You'll believe in yourself regardless of whether you've been fired, gone through a divorce, or failed to get a promotion.

Instead of chasing things that temporarily boost your self-esteem, measure your self-worth by who you are at your core. Behave according to your values and create a life of meaning and purpose.

Monday Motivation: Stop Making Excuses

From mindbodygreen

7 Tips To Stop Making Excuses

About Why You're Not Succeeding

Excuses can be pretty powerful. They can hold us back and leave us in a cycle of procrastination. They are that inner voice within that tells us we're not good enough, worthy enough, capable enough — the list of inadequacy goes on. All of this negative self-talk gets us nowhere. It keeps us paralyzed in our fears.

We are all capable of getting the results we want, but results and excuses can't coexist. To get the results you want, you have to ditch the excuses. Invalidating our calling and our purpose leads to the excuses piling up one after the other.

So here are seven ways to stop making excuses today:

1. Make a list of your fears.

Do you let your fears run the show? Do they keep you in a cycle of excuse after excuse? Write them all down today. Create a list. Look at the fears and read them aloud to yourself. Seeing them on paper diminishes their value.

2. Write down what you're doing in response to these fears.

After writing down each of your fears, write down what you are doing in response to each of these fears. Know that you cannot fail; by showing up and being the best version of yourself, you have not failed. The mind can play tricks on you, making you live in response to your fears.

3. Decide on five concrete goals.

Put these five goals on paper. Look at them. Start to manifest them. Start to believe you can make them become a part of your life.

4. For each goal, come up with three action steps to help make them a reality.

Create an action plan for yourself. This is what it all comes down to: ACTION. You can understand something intellectually, but it's a matter of bringing that down into the heart and taking the steps to make these goals and results your reality.

5. Create a one-day plan.

Start small. Think about what you can do today to make the results you want part of your reality. Maybe it's talking with a friend about what it is you truly want. Maybe it's journaling about what inspires you, lights the fire inside, and brings about a sense of purpose and passion.

6. Tell someone about your plan.

Accountability is everything. Knowing that you're not alone and that someone else is there on the journey with you is empowering. Tell a friend or family member about this plan. Start working with a professional to bring your ideas and visions to life. Remember, you can't do it all alone and the more love you let in, the more love you let out, and thus the more results you'll see.

7. Truly embrace compassion.

These changes all start with this one word: compassion. Without compassion, you're stuck in a cycle of fear and excuses. Compassion allows the love to flow through. It allows you to show up, be authentic, and create the life you want for yourself. You can be your own worst enemy and critic. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a loving friend or family member. Take in the fact that you have a choice each and every moment. Align this choice with the results you want for yourself.

Monday Motivation: Christmas To-Do List

  1. Be Present.

    If we want to enjoy the holiday season more, we have to focus our efforts on being a little more present with ourselves and others. By making time to stay present, we can improve our relationships with others and connect with them more deeply away from our screens.

  2. Wrap Someone in a Hug.

    A hug is an expression of warmth and friendliness with arms outstretched around the other. Hugs are used as an expression of love, kindness, sympathy, friendliness, greetings and used sometimes to say goodbye.

  3. Send Peace.

    Tired of all the grinches who complain when the holiday season comes around? Rid the world of them by spreading some holiday cheer. You can make a difference just by baking cookies, listening to carols, or giving a little something to those whom we take for granted.

    Set aside five minutes each morning to sit quietly with a cup of Christmas blend coffee and just breathe. Use this time to ground yourself and prepare for the day that is to come. Beginning each day peacefully will help you to carry that peace with you for the rest of the day.

  4. Donate Food.

    Since not everyone is fortunate enough to have access to their loved ones, food, presents, or a home, the holidays are also an important time to spread cheer to those less fortunate. One easy way to give back to the community, whether you live in Hawaii, Alaska or any state in the contiguous 48, is to donate food, money or your time to a local food bank. Through their vast networks of food pantries and other agencies, food banks feed millions of food to those in need every day.

  5. Be the Light.

    What Does It Mean To Be the Light? It means doing things that make you feel free and peaceful, surrendering control, trusting your intuition, showing compassion and kindness to yourself and others, and believing the simple truth that you are enough. It is about bringing light to the places that are dark. It is about looking for opportunities to lift someone else up. It is about making a conscious effort to help other people recognize the light that is within them.

Be Inspired, Not Intimidated

Most people often assume that the road to success is a simple and straightforward one. The reality is that it almost always involves periods of uncertainty and challenges that will test us. For us to successfully navigate through this tricky terrain, it is critically important to learn how to manage feelings of any self-doubt and insecurities that may crop up along the way.

Too often, we allow the voices of our insecurities to prevent us from moving forward in our dreams because we are afraid of failing. We measure our performance with a yardstick that measures our worth based on our popularity and financial gain.

The truth is that if you want to stand out of the herd, you need a strong foundation of self confidence which necessitates the need to keep your insecurities and feelings of inadequacies in check.

Here is a 4 step process to help manage your internal terrain while working towards a goal:

  1. Clarify your intention: Ask yourself, “What is my message? What is my intention in sharing my skills/product/talent? What outcome do I really want to achieve? Who do I want to become in the process? Why is this important to me?”

  2. Learn from success: Instead of letting others’ success intimidate you, let it become a source of inspiration and learning. Ask yourself, “Who are the most successful people in my field? What can I learn from them? What were the steps that they took to become a success? Which steps can I replicate in own my journey?”

  3. Do a SWOT analysis: This is one of the best frameworks to use when it comes to analyzing yourself and trying to find a way to differentiate yourself from your competitors.

  4. Manage your gremlins during the process: There may be times when you will feel your insecurities crop up. During these times, it is helpful to engage in “motivation-boosting rituals” such as glancing at your Dream Board, using visualization techniques, repeating affirmations that inspire you, and listening to motivational music.

In this way, you can stay objective while you create your action plan. The key is to not let your insecurities, often triggered by others’ success, fog your mind and prevent you from seeing your potential for your own unique path.

If you stay strong and focus on the big picture, you will gradually reach your desired destination, and along the way, you will realize that the real pot of gold lies behind the rainbow of love, self-expression, and contribution.

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